Old Man, Young Wife; or Older Wife, Young Man Marriages

Someone sent me this joke and that makes me wonder about an old man, young wife or older wife, young man relationships:

A married couple, in their early 60s, was out celebrating their 35th wedding anniversary in a quiet, romantic little restaurant.

Suddenly, a tiny yet beautiful fairy appeared on their table and said, “For being such an exemplary married couple and for being faithful to each other for all this time, I will grant you each a wish.

“Ooh, I want to travel around the world with my darling husband” said the wife.

The fairy moved her magic stick and – abracadabra! – two tickets for the new QM2 luxury liner appeared in her hands.

Now it was the husband’s turn. He thought for a moment and said: “Well this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this only occurs once in a life time, so, I’m sorry, my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me”.

The wife and the fairy were deeply disappointed; but a wish is a wish. So the fairy made a circle with her magic stick and – abracadabra! – the husband became 90 years old.

The moral of this story….Men might be ungrateful idiots, but fairies are female.

I used to think relationship spanning decade/s apart is a recipe for disaster as the couple may just have too little in common.

In the old days, old man-young wife is acceptable, but older wife-young husband marriage is so frowned upon. In recently years, it has become a trend.

My friend, a Caucasian man, who married a Chinese woman 17 years younger than him, seems to be doing fine. He says with the younger wife he has to remain young — psychologically, mentally and physically — to keep up with her, and that makes it wonderful for him.

Guys, much, much younger than me, hit on me before. But I am too old-fashioned at the time to take him up.

A chronically-mature (40s, 50s, 60s) person can be immature and reckless, while a chonically-tender person can be mature and prudent, so basing the compatibility of a relationship solely on age has become ineffective.

This so-called May-December relationship has become more acceptable, and even fashionable. Just look at high profile couples like Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore, Guy Ritchie and Madonna, and even Joan Collins and Percy Gilbons with 32 years apart.

Communication network and technology has made connection with most part of the globe a snap of the finger. And with easier accessibility of information, all of us has to learn new things, to keep up with gadgets, news, and technology. The myth about nothing in common can be easily remedied by learning and participating.

If two people are in love with each other, perhaps the differences in age, background, and interests might be a blessing after all as they can learn and share new and diverse experiences together.

I’m not into fishing, sailing or racing cars, but if those were his passion, I would love to go sailing with him. To me, that’s a part of loving.

So, to you guys, have you ever wished to have a wife decades younger than you? and you gals, how do you think of a marraige with a husband much younger than you?