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Modobs has posted a challenge for us, and that is “If you were left alone on a deserted island, which celebrity would you choose to spend the time with?”

That’s a tough question, Modobs.

Thinking back, there are many celebrities I find attractive and have some kind of a crush on.

Men like:

  • Brad Pitt

  • John F Kennedy, Jr.

  • Sean Connery

  • Jake Gyllenhaal

  • Abhishek Bachchan

Brad Pitt: what can I say? He’s my voted sexist of the sexist man alive. He caught my fancy in the film, “A River Run Through It “ where he played the reckless gambler and drinker, and in Meet Joe Black, the Death who experienced first love with a human woman.

Guess I would always be attracted to man with a boyish appearance.

John F Kennedy, Jr., who is so elegant and refined, but unfortunately died in a plane crash.

Sean Connery: I always find mildly hairy-chest man attractive, and Sean was extremely sexy in his James Bond movies, and his legs, ooh ooohhh, but rumors has it he beats his wife and he’s been connected to a man’s death.  

Also, I’ve been reminded that at his age, he wouldn’t be fit enough to climb the coconut tree to bring me food, hahaha.. So, sorry, Sean, you are out.

Jake Gyllenhaal: there’s abit of an issue as the sex scene he did with Heath in the Brokeback Mountain was so real and that really stuck in my mind, and so I would feel really strange making love to him!  Nevertheless, he’s so gorgeous.

Moreover, according to wikipedia and I quote: “There is a also a speculation whether he’s bi-sexual, and when asked about the more intimate scenes with Ledger, Gyllenhaal likened them to “doing a sex scene with a woman I’m not particularly attracted to.”  With that cloud over his head, I would have to pass.

OK, who’s left?

Abhishek Bachchan, 31, son of an acclaimed Bollywood actor, Amitabh Bachchan . He attended school in Switzerland and Boston University. While at Boston University, he dropped out to pursue his acting career.


He has started acting since 2000.and has now been in over two dozen movies, and many of them has won him awards.

Not only is he one of the sought-after stars in Bollywood, Abhishek has also been named as Asia’s Sexiest Male of the Year 2006 by a British tabloid. 

Abhishek recently married Aishwarya Rai.  Like a Prince Charming, he rode on a white horse to pick up his bride on traditional Hindu rites.  Oh, so romantic!

Why do I deserve him?

  • He is East Indian, I’m Asian.

  • He stars in Bollywood movies, I love movies and Indian culture.

  • He speaks French, I adore French.

  • He’s over 6 feet, and I like man towering over me, make me feel protected.

What do I know about him?

Not much actually.  From what I can find out he seems a decent, good man.  He’s a mystery for me.  Especially whenever he  has that brooding and lost look which I find so irresistible, and I wanted to reach out to him.


Not only that, in recent years, I have found East Indian, Middle Eastern men so darn exotic and handsome.  They have those big, deep-set eyes, very defined facial structure, and those sexy, full lips.

Another thing I have to give it to Abhishek is:  normally I very much dislike men with beard or goatee.  He’s the only one I find attractive even unshaven.  Guess, that unshaven face gives him a dark, dangerous quality that is very appealing.

In Hindu movies, it is very rare to see steamy, love scenes.  So, that gets me wondering feverishly what would it be like to be kissed and made love to Abhishek, and whether he would be a great lover and all ?!

So, if I were left in a deserted island, Abhishek can sing me some sweet Hindu love songs, chase me around the island, carry me up the coconut tree, and I could lay in his arms, feeling safe and warm… humm…

OK, Modobs, now you have it.

Who can I tag this challenge to?  Hummm let’s see:  Samiha, I know you are taking a break now from blogging, but when you return, I would love to hear who would be the celebrity that you want to spend some time with and you would take this challenge.


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Can you make love out of nothing at all?   No feeling involved, merely lust?

Can you be intimate with a complete stranger, knowing nothing about him, feeling nothing about him, not even being attracted to him one tiny bit?

Perhaps I’m an idealist, a romantic fool,  I know I can’t.

I used to think woman makes love mostly out of something, and man mostly out of nothing.

I once read a personal post about a man asking to meet women, by the number, #126?  Yuck.  Do you want to be a number in a man’s life?  Do you care?  Even how attractive or eligible he is?  I know I don’t.

I never can understand one night’s stand.  Or waking up in someone’s bed in the morning when you only met him the night before.

I guess I’m just old-fashioned.  Have things been changed?  Have we moved into the 21st century that monogamous is now so out-of-style?

All these one night stand, sex buddies, exchanging partners, multiple sex partners, orgies, incest, or sleeping with a married man/woman, your daughter-in-law or whoever, what has gotten into that good ol’  one-on-one love and faithfulness?

I have heard stories of how people boost about their sexual encounters.  They seem to think the more the better, the more the merrier?

Do people still care about loving or caring?  Are we so hedonistic that we don’t care that in so doing we are hurting some other persons along the way?

I agree sex is all good and pleasurable.  And I’m all for gaining new experiences, being adventurous?  But how do we cut the lines here?

Have women become a “deposit box”, and men a shooter? 

What do you think about all these?  Can you make love “out of nothing” at all?

Making Love Out of Nothing At All

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Can orgasm be triggered by a touch on the hand?

By a seductive voice or a mere word?

I once had a mysterious experience. I reached out to hold his hand. When mine touched his, ohh massive waves of pleasures came rushing down onto me. It was electrifying.

I don’t think he knew some extraordinary stuff to make me feel like that and I don’t think he realized it at the time, either. But, it was very powerful for me. Although I never understand it, I would never forget it.

It was magic!

Wendi Friesen demonstrated this in a Showtime Special with a girl, and also in another session with a group of 50 people that it was indeed possible to induce orgasm without having “real” sex. View a video clip as Wendi explains it here.

Wow, what would it be like if ….?

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I have a nagging question and I still don’t know the answer for sure.

The question:

When I walk on the street I occasionally bump into someone (literally), and after that I don’t know if there is a rule, like when I’m walking north, I should step to the right, or to the left? And so, with that confusion, usually I will bump into that someone again a second time.

‘Excuse me…” “Ooops….”

That was embarrassing.

This question came up as we were walking to get our cars after a first date.

So I stopped, right there on the street, and demonstrated. Stepped to the right, stepped up and to the left. He kinda followed, and this demonstration made it look and feel like we were dancing on the street.

Although we didn’t touch, hold hands, or anything, but the proximity has made it quite intimate, and delightful!

Now, why is dancing, especially on the street, so appealing?

I think it’s that spontaneousness, as you lose yourself of time and space when you totally involve in that rhythm and with that special someone that makes it so.

Dancing in the Moonlight

So, have you ever danced on the street, in the moonlight? And how do you like it?

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If you were like me who see humor in any situation, life can be a lot of fun.

Once, we went to the movies.

Before going in, we made a trip to the rest room.

I led the way and went to the room on my right. My date automatically followed my lead and went to the one on the left. Then I looked up and saw the sign as I was pushing the door open, oh no, that is the Men’s Territory.

Alarmed, I immediately called out to him as he was about to go in, “it’s the wrong side!” and we swiftly exchanged places.

I went in and looked, whew, there was no one inside.

So I finished what I needed to do and came out. He was waiting for me outside.

I don’t know if anyone saw us. I thought that was quite funny.

Have you ever seen those hot, erotic movies scenes where couple have sex passionately, and dangerously in the public rest room?

Now in retrospect, hehe perhaps I should have pulled him into the Ladies Room so we can snatch a quickie there. Wow, wouldn’t that be naughty?

On top of being naughty, the delicious fear of being caught in any second just makes it much more exciting, and pleasurable!

Have you done anything naughty lately?

According to an interesting poll from MSNBC: “Have you ever Frolicked in a Forbidden Place” of 15,753 respondents 83% said they had sex in a public place and 5.4% were caught.

That just reminds me of reading in the news, and I’m not making it up, that a couple fell to deaths from rooftop of a tall building, naked!


My advice for the sake of safety, even in the heat of passion try to exercise some precautionary measures and be mindful of any potential danger while you are venturing out.

And hey, if you decide to make out on the rooftop, I know it’s not sexy but strap a parachute on your waist, OK?

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Elusive Feelings?

Have you have had some kind of gut feelings about something or someone?

I never realize I have.  And the very first and crucial time my subsconcious, or inner self or whatever you call it, was shouting at me, I didn’t know any better to listen to it then, and I live to regret it.

When we are in love, we have that euphoric feelings of being in love that we often times ignore that little nagging inside our head that tells us otherwise.

I am basically a “feeling” person, so to determine whether I am attracted to that someone or want to continue dating him would depend largely on how I feel with him.

However, feeling could be so elusive and puzzling.

I went out with this guy on our first date after emails and phone calls. 

One thing about me is I can never stand a smoker because I’m terribly sensitive to cigarette smoke, and just a little remnant of it would repel me.   So very soon after we met, I knew, to my dismay, he is a heavy smoker, and that makes it very difficult for me to feel comfortable in his company.

Even with this odd against him, the most unimaginable thing is I had this feeling of having met him somewhere before, of having known him, although I know I hadn’t. 

You probably know that feeling.  The feeling of familiarity, of feeling safe and secure in his company, that kind of thing. 

If you have been searching for your soulmate, the one and the only one that you have been waiting for all your life, I can tell you, this feeling is overwhelming.

To this date, I never understood why I had that feeling.  Clearly, he is not a match, and being born on the same strong sign that we are doesn’t help either because there is little chance that we can compromise on things.

Anyway, after many months we did have personality conflicts and the romance ended.  Last time I went out with him, that feeling of familiarity was gone as if it had never come at all.  I was stunned at the time how I felt nothing for him.  How can feelings just leave like that?

Feeling could be so tricky, sign…..

How I would love to transfer that elusive feeling to another more compatible candidate?  But I have no say in that.

Have you ever had any gut feelings about someone?

If you had, no matter how tiny or trivial, listen attentively to it  Check it out as that may very well save you lots of heartbreak and unhappiness down the road.

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Kiss Me

Some hot tips to flirt like a pro and add more sizzles in your love life:

  • Start with clear, loving eyes. People simply are attracted to bigger eyes. It is not too appealing if your eyes are tired and with bloodshot, eyes.

Here is one exercise from the Natural Vision Improvement Kit by Meir Schneider: Palming.

  • Sit comfortably at a table and prop your elbows on pillows to relax your shoulders. Rub your hands together to warm them. Place your palms on your cheekbones and put your hands over your eye orbits, placing all pressure on your elbows. Breathe deeply and slowly, feeling your eyes soft and warm against your palms. Try to visualize only back while imaging your whole body expanding as you inhale and shrinking when you exhale.

Try it. It does wonders.

Some more ways to sizzle up your love life:

  • Gaze a little longer at your mate. Pay more attention to their unique features. You may rediscover some features that you have so adored and have forgotten about.
  • Do a double take. Allow your gaze to rest on them for a second or two, and continue to sweep the room for other objects. Then come back and look at them the second time, this time longer, drinking in the details, locking eyes with them, and smiling alluringly.
  • Ladies- refresh and practice some flirting moves, like pouting, or a bemused and up-curling of one side of the month, or doing a playful smirk, or a twinkling of the eyes.
  • Speak with a soft, sensual voice. Be a little more suggestive with your tones or gestures. Practice your sultry voice and use that more often.
  • Fondle a wine glass stem in a slow and seductive manner. Touch your neck or toss your hair, or run a hand along their thigh.
  • Plant them some unexpected, tiny kisses.
  • Cook up some excitement. Involve all their senses. Do this as if you were a teenager with your first lover.
  • Relive the heightened exhilaration.

Above all, make it fun! 🙂

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